Saturday, September 17, 2011
Arrived home
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
And so it continues .... Please READ
The next problem was that the entire planeload of people had gone through customs and had already officially exited Turkey and had exit stamps placed in our passports. The Delta personnel re-routed us all back down into the arrivals area and back through customs again, where they took back the passports and canceled the exit stamps. This is apparently the official way to handle this problem here. It got us back into Turkey, but we have yet to see whether it will allow us to exit again. Presumably several hundred people will have the same problem tomorrow if it doesn't, though, so I'm hoping they have some sort of system for this.
Once we got through customs we retrieved our bags and a lovely Delta agent helped us receive a refund for surcharges on a heavy bag. We should be able to repack to avoid this when we go back again tomorrow. We were told that the airline was planning to put us all up at a hotel in Asia, but we weren't too excited about this because it would mean several hours on a bus each way and hanging out with a bunch of disgruntled airline passengers (we'd had a dose of the griping in the customs line already). We were also very blessed to have Ali and his office on our side. Even before we contacted them they were already tracking our flight and knew it had been canceled and had sent a van back to the airport for us with Hakan, who helped us navigate through the process of heading back to Istanbul. We had also paid for our apartments for a full 30 days (to get the one-month discount) but had only used them for 29, so we were all able to return to our original housing for another night. The students' apartment manager invited them all to dinner tonight, so we were greatly appreciative.
We have been told we are all booked onto the flight to New York tomorrow morning, and on to LAX after that. We are still in the process of confirming this with our travel agent, but will let you know as soon as it's confirmed. In the meantime, you should all expect that we will be arriving at LAX one day late at 8:26 pm.
Tuesday, September 13, 2011
And so it Ends
Here I am sitting in my room at 1:30 in the morning and it is the last night i will spend here in Istanbul. I am actually quite sad to be going not because i dread going back to California and starting another year of school but because i have felt so comfortable here in Turkey. Even though I dont feel like It is my home and I dont feel i am leaving any piece of my heart here I will dreadfully miss my stay here.
The Unforgettable Meal: Going Out in Grand Fashion
Monday, September 12, 2011
Your reputation precedes you
Sultanahmet is host so so many people every day that it is probably inevitable that it has become infested with shops with intrusive salespeople all vying for the seemingly unlimited tourist dollars/euros/pounds, etc. A stroll through the neighborhood elicits calls of "where are you from?" "You very pretty. I make you good deal," the even more obnoxious "I know you are American!" or the strangely compelling "Are you from Seattle?" (I have to resist the urge to respond to this one in Turkish, it seems like such a peculiar question to me). Knowing some Turkish is a big help with all this, because most of these people are violating Turkish norms of hospitality when they harass people on the street. They manage to pull it off because they are speaking English, and they recognize that at least for Americans, norms of politeness strongly dictate that you must respond when spoken to. If I do respond to people, I try to respond in Turkish as much as possible, because it calls them back to Turkish norms. It's a lot harder for them to be rude in Turkish, because being rude is a violation of the Turkish expectation/duty of hospitality. Speaking Turkish calls upon that identity in a way that often makes people back off. I once had a hilarious conversation with a shoe shine boy who was extremely persistent in his demands (in English) to polish my husband's shoes. I responded to him several times in Turkish that we were not interested. Finally I stopped and faced him and asked point blank (in Turkish), "What's wrong? Aren't you Turkish? Don't you understand Turkish? I've already told you 'no' four times!" He completely lost character (for those actors among us). He could only keep up the brash and persistent role he'd taken on if he spoke in English. Once I insisted on a real conversation in Turkish he burst into embarrassed giggles and we both had a good laugh together.
Despite the feel of the area as a metropolis of its own, it is also a small neighborhood, where people know each other and talk with each other daily over tea. We intentionally found an apartment for the students that is out of the rush of Sultanahmet proper and in a quieter neighborhood, but to access public transportation, they must go through the area fairly frequently. In the throng of tourists we usually feel fairly anonymous, but in a small neighborhood people talk. I was reminded of this a few weeks ago when people I had never talked with before started asking me (when I was alone on the street or with my kids), "Where are your students?" Tonight I got a particularly strong reminder when my family was walking past a man I had never spoken to before who stopped me and asked "Do you speak Turkish?" You must believe me when I say that NO ONE here ever assumes that an American knows any Turkish other than possibly "teşekkur ederim" ("thank you," which most Americans completely butcher, because it's a mouthful). I usually ignore or politely toss off the calls of shopkeepers, but this time I stopped and asked him why he asked. He made an excuse about how my husband looks Turkish (but of course he didn't ask my husband, which would have been a more appropriate thing to do if he really thought Paul was Turkish. Even more oddly, our son, who is Kazak and was with us, really IS Turkish from the perspective of most Turks, so he's the one who we're most often asked about). I mentally dismissed the man's response as a polite fabrication, but suddenly realized that of course he knew all along that I spoke Turkish, because this is a small neighborhood and people talk. We've been told by a long-time resident of the neighborhood that there is a strong neighborhood grapevine, and our group is one of its current discussion topics. For those who might find this frightening, I think it's neither a good thing nor a bad thing; it's simply a reflection of how social networks here work. One aspect of becoming a part of a community in Turkey, even in a very superficial way, is becoming known by the neighbors and becoming the subject of discussion on the grapevine. In many ways I'm grateful for the neighborhood grapevine, because it can also become a source of protection. Several years ago we had a few students who went back to the hotel to get something and then got lost on their way to meet back up with the group. They ran into a man in the neighborhood who knew exactly who they belonged with and where the group was at the time, and he took them to us and reunited them with the group. They had believed that they were anonymous and that no one could possibly know who they were with, but he started describing members of the group to them and they were quickly convinced that though they didn't know him, he knew exactly who they were. The reality of the neighborhood grapevine, also means, though, that it is very important to guard one's reputation. It's easy to get a reputation for being unkind or loose or bad-tempered, and that reputation precedes you and impacts the reception you will get in the neighborhood, even with people you've never met.
In this case, it was primarily a curiosity for people that I was clearly a visitor to Turkey but also clearly knew some Turkish. The realization that someone without an obvious need to learn the language would go out of their way to learn Turkish is both fascinating and flattering, and becomes, in itself, a source of conversation.
Classes
One of my intentions in giving the students a fair amount of flexibility and freedom was to give them the opportunity to make their own connections and find their own favorite spots in the city. My own experience has been that I feel more of a sense of connection to the city and to the people in it when I have made those connections and found those places and people rather than having an "expert" take me there and tell me this is somewhere I should go or someone I should like. Part of the Istanbul experience is finding the corner grocer who gets to know you and consistently rounds your bill down or greets you like an old friend because you are a regular customer. For instance, my husband Paul went to our grocer the other day and discovered that he didn't have quite enough change to pay for all the items he had selected. The grocer insisted that Paul could take the whole order and said that he trusted Paul to bring the rest of the money next time.
Part of the ownership that the students are starting to feel for the city includes knowing their way around and recognizing where in the city they are and where they can go to get something done. They no longer feel like visitors but they are starting to feel like they live here. When I was perusing Facebook the other day I noticed that a number of them have changed their home cities on their webpages to read "Istanbul, Turkey." This is an amazing thing, because they really are starting to feel that they have a home here. I talked with Carlos this morning about this, and he said he has been surprised recently to realize that he really is developing a mental map of the city and is getting into the routines and peculiarities of the city in a way that lets him navigate a lot of daily life without help. It can come as a bit of a shock to recognize that you are the one giving directions to newcomers or that you don't have to ask for help to find the freshest cucumbers in the neighborhood or to figure out where and how to refill the minutes on your phone. When another group of your classmates want to meet up for shopping or tea, you can mention a place to meet and both parties know exactly where it is and how to get there.
But I digress ... back to being gourmets. The cooking classes were incredible. The teacher is a food critic and teaches nutrition in several Istanbul universities (although I think something may have gotten lost in translation here - she is certainly a chef and seems to teach this as well). She has her own column in the newspaper. The cooking classes made some spectacular meals, and some of us (myself included) who were not even in the classes discovered that if we timed our visit right we could drop by just as the meal was being served and mooch off the chefs (to the credit of some of the so-called moochers, though, there was an all-around openness to becoming a server or a dishwasher or a table clearer, in recognition of the good work of the chefs). We've been promised recipes, and are already planning a reunion dinner to cook them.
Someone in the group asked the cooking teacher what her favorite restaurants in Istanbul are. It turns out that she consulted on the preparation of the menus and recipes at Asitane (the spectacular Ottoman restaurant we went to last week) and some of her students work there. She also named two other restaurants that are her all time Istanbul favorites. Interestingly, tonight as my family was sitting down to dinner we got a call from a group of the students wanting the name of one of the restaurants. They had decided to venture out to try one of the other favorites, since they liked Asitane so much. I'm eagerly awaiting a report back from them on what they had. Anyone? Anyone?
Double delight
Today the family and Rebecca were near the covered bazaar (most of the rest of the group had gone either to a beach on the Black Sea or shopping with Betul) headed for the booksellers' bazaar (more on that later), when I glanced up and noticed there was a branch of Güllüoğlu right there! Of course the kids charged right in, and we decided to get some baklava to take home. Since I hadn't been there before I started looking through the options for baklava. Sometimes I forget how much of the world here is comprehensible to me simply because of my knowledge of Turkish, and similarly how much my fellow travelers miss. I immediately spotted what seemed like an impossibility. Could it be? Kaymakli baklava??? Some of our regular readers may remember my previous post about kaymak, a sort of Turkish clotted cream made from buffalo milk. Lo and behold! Baklava with kaymak inside. This seemed like an impossibly rich concoction until I remembered Ali encouraging some of the group to spread kaymak on their baklava when we went to iftar at the gallery. Once Rebecca and the rest of the family understood what I was seeing, they were all keen to try it out. We had some after dinner tonight, and it was amazing! I had expected it to be horribly rich but happily the bakers seem to use a light hand with the honey and hold off on the walnuts entirely, so it actually works.
It's most unfortunate that kaymak spoils so quickly, or I'd bring some of this double delight home for our readers. Instead you are left to your own imagination. Sorry to disappoint you all. Perhaps you'll come to Turkey sometime? Barring that, though, we discovered today that Güllüoğlu has a branch in Los Angeles (Granada Hills to be precise). Who knew??? Road trip anyone?
Sunday, September 11, 2011
Gel-git: Comings and goings
This week has been characterized by comings and goings as well. On Friday Natan Vigna arrived from the University to photograph our adventures. His arrival was met with a lot of enthusiasm by the group, and we have enjoyed showing him around, taking him to classes, and helping him find places for photos. We’ve only seen a small proportion of his work so far, but I, at least, am thoroughly impressed. I think he will have a lot of excellent photos to contribute to various projects and articles on honors and general PR for the University. He went to work straight off the plane, and seems to be throwing himself into the job.
Kelli’s mom and dad and her friend Steven arrived yesterday (Saturday) morning. Kelli will be traveling with them for a few days after the end of the trip, so they arranged to meet her here. Ali, our art teacher looked a little surprised that Kelli had a male friend joining her here with her parents, but I assured him that Kelli’s father was escorting Steven and was staying with him here. In this society having the father’s approval makes a lot of difference, but I think this arrangement mixes up some of the cultural conceptions a bit. Those who adopt more Western standards here would not be surprised to see an unmarried woman and man here together (particularly if the couple were American), and for those who are more traditional it would be common for a chaste woman to be under the supervision of her father, but this combination of an unmarried man and woman traveling under the supervision of the girl’s parents (father is the relevant point here) seems decidedly odd to them. There is no clear category to put them into. Our consistent refusal of alcohol (as individuals and also as a whole) also has been a bit confusing to people here, because it violates some of the cultural perceptions of Americans.
The early morning hours today saw the departure of two of the students. Both of them are residential assistants in the dorms, and needed to return to campus early for their training. We went to one of our favorite restaurants for dinner for our last night here as a group, and we are all feeling the loss of their presence here. I found myself waking frequently in the night and checking the time to see what they were doing and whether they would have departed yet. From emails and Facebook posts I’ve seen, it looks like most of their peers stayed up with them to wait for their 3 am departure from the apartment building.
Jon and Ashlee’s departure has only made more real to us the recognition that soon we will all be going our separate ways, and that although most of the travelers are going back to campus, we will sorely miss the friends we have made here. Increasingly I am hearing the sentiment that Turkey and the people we have come to know here have become integrated into our lives in ways that have changed us all and will continue to be carried with us as we move back into our old lives and on to new things. Hew commented earlier that Ali had told him that if he is homesick now, once he gets home it will be worse because he will also be homesick for Turkey. This has repeatedly been my experience here. While the changes in ourselves may be dimly seen here, when we go home we realize that in some way we have incorporated a little bit of the values and lifestyle of our Turkish friends into who we are, and in that way we can never be monocultural again, if we were to begin with. We can’t just leave Turkey behind or shed it like a coat we tried on for size. We’ve allowed our hearts to be touched by people here, and our hearts won’t ever be entirely the same again. Like the gel-git marbling, once the water has been stirred the patterns created can’t be undone.
We ask for the patience of all of you we are coming home to. I suspect the adjustment for many of us will be more difficult than we expect. We sense that we have been in some way suspended in time and space and have been richly blessed for the experience. It has been rewarding for me to watch students grow and change so rapidly and open themselves to new ways of seeing the world. We could never have replicated this in a classroom. Thank you to all the families who made it possible for us to do this, to the University for dedicating the resources and expertise, and for all those who covered for us in our absence by watering our plants, caring for our pets, taking in the mail, and most of all praying for us. Thank you also in advance for bearing with us for just one more story about what happened while we were here.
Saturday, September 10, 2011
Classes
One of our classes here is ceramic tile painting. Ceramic tiles are a key feature of Turkish architecture, and ceramic plates and bowls are popular household items. Betul and Ali arranged for us to learn how to transfer classic designs to bisque plates and tiles, and paint them. The finished projects have been sent off to Kutahya, a city that is one of the classic centers of tile making, to be fired, and will return to Istanbul later this week.
We also had a unique opportunity to take a music class with Serkan Çağrı, the most famous clarinetist in Turkey. He was phenomenal! Turkish music makes a lot of use of microtones and has a full notation system for them that music students learn early in their training. Serkan demonstrated various styles of music, and one of his students gave us a chance to try out playing the saz (similar to a guitar - see Justin's post). We were extremely impressed and grateful for the opportunity to work with him, even briefly. He gave us a copy of his newest CD, and permission to make copies for all of the group. I'm going to buy his earlier CDs as well.
More later - I'm off to cooking class now.
Natan=more publicity for me!
I didn’t have any classes today, so I got to wake up at 11 AM! I pretty much just sat around the room until Ashlee got back from her illumination class. At that point, it was about 3 PM. After a quick late lunch, we along with Peter, Natan, and Xander went off towards the Galata Tower to do our neighborhood project. The neighborhood project as explained in previous posts is an attempt for us to get to know Turkey not only through our own eyes, but also through the eyes of the Turkish people. Getting to our neighborhood of Begolu took a while since Natan stopped to take pictures... a lot. I didn't mind though. The more pictures he takes of me, the better the chance I'll appear on school affiliated media. Plus, he takes great pictures with that big camera of his.
After dropping Natan off at the Galata Tower, Xander, Ashlee, Peter, and I proceeded with the mapping of Begolu. We started walking on a random street from the tower until we reached the music district. This little area contained lots and lots of music stores that contained both western and Turkish instruments. We ventured further and reached what we deemed the "edge" of the neighborhood, the main street that led to Taksim. On the corner of this edge was a music CD shop. Stepping in, we found ourselves immersed in music of all kinds-- Turkish, jazz, classical; you name it, they had it. I stumbled upon the Rachmaninoff collection of the store. I remember especially enjoying one of his piano concertos, but I didn't know which one to look for. This left me very disappointed. Luckily, I had a recording of it on my computer. If any of you were wondering, it was his Piano Concerto No. 2 in C minor, Op. 18. Specifically, it was the 2nd movement I was after. I might go back there to get it later.
We walked down another street down into the music district and found an old man in his store, shredding on the electric saz (the Turkish guitar). It sounded just like an electric guitar. We stopped to listen to his amazing skills before going into the store. I've been wanting a saz ever since the music lesson a few of us had at the beginning of the week. After asking for the prices of different sazes, the man handed me one worth 100 Turkish Lira. It was of pretty good quality. He even played a few licks on it, and thoroughly convinced me that I had to buy it. Before buying though, he brought out an old photo album and showed us some of his pictures when he was younger. Apparently, he was a professional musician and played for various music stars and TV shows back in the day. With the understanding that we were in the presence of a semi-celebrity, we took a picture with him and asked him for a little private concert.
This whole experience is something that I will miss when I go back to the U.S. Rarely will anyone encounter such hospitality as I've experienced in my time in Turkey. The Turkish people are some of the nicest people I've met. From taxi drivers to store owners like the guitarist we met today, I feel like the Turkish people are genuinely interested in other people's interests. On the streets, you'll see strangers help direct cars in and out of tight parking spaces. Taxi drivers will slow down to give each other news on the traffic in the area. Turkey as a whole has taught me so much about true community, something that is sorely lacking back home in the States.
We attempted to ask for directions on how to get to the Galata House Restaurant, but he didn't know what or where that was. After thanking the man for his time and hospitality, we embarked down another street and stopped at a little shop. This shop was super cool. It had journals disguised as VCR tapes, robot salt and pepper shakers, little wallets with the coolest designs, and more that I can't even describe! Peter particularly liked on of their shirts and eventually bought it after many minutes of excruciating contemplation. We asked the store owner for directions to the Galata House Restaurant, but he didn't know of it either. This man, much younger than the guitarist we met earlier, had a laptop nearby and searched it up on Google. Oh, the wonders of the Internet! He pulled up a map on Google and detailed the route necessary to reach the restaurant. We thanked him for his time and proceeded towards the meeting point at the tower.
Upon reaching the Galata Tower, we finally saw the Kams and Steven! After talking for a few minutes, we went to the restaurant. The food was superb, as it almost always is in Turkey. I had pulmeni which is potato-stuffed ravioli. Excellent stuff. Some of us left after dinner towards a gelato place that Ashlee heard about. We each enjoyed a cone of yummy gelato on our way back to the apartments. On the way, Natan took more pictures of us at various locations such as the New Mosque and the bridge across the Bosphorus.
I immediately whipped out my newly bought saz when I arrived at the apartments and proceeded to play it... for 45 minutes. I managed to learn a good amount of basic chords and a scale or two. I'm totally hooked on the saz. It's awesome.
Now, I wait to see Ashlee and Jon off. They're leaving Turkey early for RA training. They leave the apartments at 3 AM. We only have 30 minutes left to spend with them!!! I wish them safe travels and will miss them these last few days.
Reminiscing on the last month I've spent in Turkey has been depressing. I'm certainly going to miss this wonderful country. The apartment has become a home away from home. The friends I've made have given me emotional ties to this country. The routes I've memorized of the city will always be a part of me. I can say that this whole experience has permanently altered who I am. I've become more open and accepting of Islam, Turkey, and its wonderful inhabitants. I hope to carry the things I've learned and portray these Turkish values of friendship and hospitality to my fellow Americans for the foreseeable future. I'm glad to go home... I'm just sad that I'm leaving another behind.